I ask few serious questions, but here goes one; What do you think of a messy house?

I live in a very nice, by my standards, house. It's 3500 sqft, hardwood floors on 12 acres that backs up to a million wooded acres. I have a 150 foot concrete driveway, a guest house and a completely separate garage/office as I work from home as a computer programmer.





But we keep a sloppy house. It's not like something you'd see in better homes and gardens. Nope, this place is a freaking wreck. I have four kids, 3 of them young boys, and they are rowdy as hell, so our furniture os pretty much trashed, seriously.





I built the house myself and am not quite done and quite frankly, I haven't even tried to finish the trim work because the damn project has taken me five years to get to this point. I'm tired and just don't care anymore. BUT, I will finish it as I got some new tools this Christmas.





Anyway, the question is, if you visited a really nice place and then walked in and it was messy and unfinished, what would you think of the people?

I ask few serious questions, but here goes one; What do you think of a messy house?
i would think that they are us. we have the same problem. we live in a nice house. moved in 3 years ago. there is stuff all over the couch and dining room table, the kitchen is filled w/ my sister's art projects and moms never ending pots, pans, and plastic spoons (for her coffee) we have about 6 burned out candles sitting on the counter, the whole laundry room and the breeze way is not painted yet, the back room (my parents future bedroom) is so full with bags of clothes and books and other crap we havent gotten around to unpacking yet that my parents have to sleep on a matress on the floor in the room w/ the front door. but the outside is so pretty its almost funny.
Reply:I have quiete the opposite of your possession and 2 kids, 4y and 6mo. but guess what, my house is always a mess and my wife said I dont help out. The fact is simple messy people are just messy. if its you who are messy, you need to learn the routine of putting back things where they belong after using them and you'll spend less time when its time to clean. In my view, messy people need to learn how to have discipline in their EVERYDAY life. and thats how I'm personally going to look at you, lack of discipline, my wife included, no disrespect.
Reply:I would look at your 4 kids and totally understand. Enough said.
Reply:I would wonder with that nice of a house


you could hire a housekeeper and nanny to help


i am not being mean..it is just my opinion


i personally can not stand a messy house.It drives me crazy !!!
Reply:Any assessment I make would be of the people not their home or what they have in it. Yes, you can sometime infer from the way people live something about them as people i.e.that they are slovenly and lazy, but this may not be the whole story. Sometimes it is just not possible to keep an absolutely immaculate home and anyway keeping house in that way seems to become an end in it self for some. Anyway I always feel more comfortable in a home that is 'organized chaos', it's more relaxing to be in.
Reply:gee.. the place itself would reflect on how the ppl there are like..
Reply:seems like they dont know how to finish work and are lacking in there job of cleanibg up after work. in my opion?
Reply:A messy house is not as bad as a dirty house what does your wife do to keep the place tidy not that she should be the only one doing this and how old are your kids as you say your furniture is trashed have you not taught them respect I reared 4 children and none of my furniture was ever trashed i suggest you get their lazy arses into gear if they are old enough and get them helping you to tidy up
Reply:relax!! messy and dirty are 2 different things.. if its messy, fine! but dirty........thats just plain laziness
Reply:I would think they were very disorganized and lacked self-discipline. I would wonder if they were "artistic" types or simply did not care anymore. I also might wonder if their marriage and family life no longer lacked meaning for them. It would be difficult to fathom why such intelligent people would allow their children to "trash" their furniture!


Is it possible that the asker of this question might be sensing something is amiss in his family life?
Reply:Taking into consideration you have children, I would think your house would looked lived in and not picture perfect. As for the unfinished trim work, obviously you work hard and most generally when people come home (or come in) from work, they just want to relax. If I came to your house and saw a few stains on the sofa and toys strewn about, I would think "wow, kids live here"

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