My boyfriend wants me to move in with him, but?

which is great, but we both have our own houses, i have spent alot of time/money on getting my house and garden just right and i really love it, my house belongs to my mum where i live rent free, so if i moved out she would be able to rent out and make quite a bit of money a month, which of course would be great for her, but i have a whole house full of furniture which my b/f isnt willing to have in his house as he says he already has furniture,(i guess i could put it into storage until we buy a house together) his garden is small and i love having a veggie patch...ahhh what should i do??? its a bit of a catch 22 situ!

My boyfriend wants me to move in with him, but?
ask him to move in with you??
Reply:I think you should get some respect for yourself and NOT play house with this man . PERIOD.
Reply:Stay where you are. Unless he is willing to marry you, which would provide you with more security, do not give up that house just to move in with him. If he broke up with you a year from now you might not get that house back, or even if you did it could all be changed by the people who moved in.
Reply:I'm in a similar situation. i am moving into my partners house (have been practically living there for the last 6 months) we are planning on getting somewhere together in the summer. my large items of furniture and appliances are being stored until then. our plan is to asses which items to keep when we have a better idea of space and which items neither of us can be without.


is it a case of there not being room for your furniture or about him not wanting it in his house ? is this going to be that case with everything of yours? you need to sit down and seriously discuss all of this with him





good luck hun x
Reply:sure, it would be good for your mum to have that extra income, but she wouldn't really know what sort of tenants she'd get until they moved in. the house could end up like a rubbish tip, or it could be perfectly cared for - you just never know! as you're having doubts, i'd say stay put. it's a huge thing to give up your home %26amp; move in with someone else. %26amp; you don't even know if you COULD live together. i'm sorry if i sound like a pessimist, but you'd be giving up so much. you've done a lot to your home, you've got it how you want it, you've got your familiar things around you. do you really want to give all that up? i'd be more cautious because of your boyfriend's attitude as well. he doesn't want you to bring any of your furniture etc; so what's he giving up? i may be an old cynic, but it sounds to me he's going to keep his life etc as it is, with the added bonus of a live-in housekeeper! please think very carefully about it %26amp; think of yourself first. it isn't being selfish; it's more like self-preservation. good luck, diane.
Reply:he seems mean for not letting you move in your stuff. why would you wanna move in with someone like that?
Reply:I think you should stay in your houses until you get married and then after you get married get a house for the both of you and you can have your own stuff if you have Jobs and went to college???





I'm not judging
Reply:Stay where you are, until you find a house that you can buy together.
Reply:you need to talk openly and honestly and write down the pros and cons of each others house and decide which has would serve you better if you think you and your boyfriend will get married which house would be suitable for kids ect, a little comprimise on both parts can easily be done if you are willing to listen to each others views and im sure you can use both bits of furniture ect just listen and comprimise, good luck
Reply:if you have doubts, which u clearly do, then stay were u are until u are 100% sure.





i wud advise living together before buying a house together tho. i no a few ppl who have bought houses 2gether and then realised they cant live 2gether.
Reply:Either ask him to come to yours ( it sounds an easy sell!) of wait , he may change his ideas.
Reply:It seems to me he wants it all on his terms, and doesn't care what you want. Do you really want to move in with someone who is so selfish? Once you give it up you can never get it back the same.
Reply:Hello, You feel you will not be happy when or if you move in with b/f, Why don't you buy your mothers house between the two of you that way you get what you need and the b/f gets what he needs your mum gets the cash she needs. Bingo all live happily ever after. Good luck.xx
Reply:Ask your boyfriend to put his house up for sale, and put your money into helping him buy a place that fits both of you. In that way neither fo you lives in the others house, but one you both want. This is called compromise.
Reply:So the question is, how bad do you (want) to move in with him? There's your answer.